Being called a whore on the internet

A friend submitted one of her videos to a male dominated site and she got trashed for it. It then turned into a thread calling her a whore and telling her to show her titties. She wrote to me about it so I started piping in with what I felt was intelligent humor. She then got mad at me and said that they were just joking and that I ruined her chance to work with them.

Maybe I’m wrong… maybe we women should feel so desperate to be accepted on the internet and in the world of comedy that we should just bend over when being called a “whore” and being told to “show our titties.” Especially when coming from the Administrators and Moderators of a popular douchebaggery comedy site. I guess I have A LOT to learn about comedy because “homey don’t play that game.”

I sent the message below to my friend only to be told that I should aim for being funnier. She then told me the forum *douchebags* (my word for them) had “handed me my head on a platter.” I felt the complete opposite occurred. Can someone please give me the fucking handbook on funny? Cause clearly I am at a loss.

Below is the message I sent to her that pretty much sums up my thoughts on the issue. Please tell me where I am having a brain malfunction with my logic because I need to learn.

“Lord knows I am far from a feminist when it comes to comedy. I roll with guys. They are my biggest supporters. I have continuously been called a “chick with a guy’s sense of humor” by men. When I was doing live shows 60% of the audience were men and they would always be so excited after the show that they didn’t see a male-bashing-fest onstage. I also have hung with some of the top male comics in our country and many of them have performed for fundraisers that I have held. They have done it for free and they have always treated me with the utmost respect. I love men deeply and would never have achieved what I have so far without them.

On the other hand.. rolling with being called a whore and being told to “show your titties” is not, in my opinion, the way to go. It will not earn you respect. Instead you will be seen as a doormat. You don’t have to get mad about it… but I do think a better approach is to try to outwit it. It runs rampant on the internet and it sends the wrong message. You know I have been knee deep in SM for years now and have earned the respect of most the top diggers and other top people in social media etc. because I don’t roll with it. I challenge it. Most guys use it as bravado but secretly they want to be challenged cause they know it’s wrong. What I see is way too many women succumbing to it because they want to fit in with the boys who control the comedy world and the internet.

I think you have a real opportunity to grow your female base which will, by shear force alone, crush these types of comments. Not from an angry diatribe but from an intelligent dismissal of such ignorance. I liken the acceptance of the status quo to the slutty girl who puts out to be accepted. We should aim higher than that.”